At times, if you haven’t noticed, I can be quite the pessimist. I am a positive person. I am cheery and happy and (I think) fun to be around. I love to laugh and I don’t take life too seriously. But when it does come to seriousness, especially in matters of the heart, I am totally jaded.
I don’t believe in soul mates. Isn’t that so unromantic and practical?
I think that there are too many people in the world for there to be ONE person who can love you for you until death do you part. There are 6 billion people in the world. SIX BILLION! And you are going to tell me only one of them is my true mate? I just don’t buy it! Let’s face it: relationships are work. We women are brought up watching Cinderella, Aladdin, and Snow White but the fact remains that these are just stories. Fables. Myths. I don’t anticipate that there will be a prince on a white horse climbing up my hair anytime soon nor do I want him to. How uncomfortable that would be and then when he gets in the tower what then. You have not showered, you have 23 years of bed head, and no makeup. So not cool.
Then he ends up disappointed because he couldn’t see that you had a few stray beard hairs with no tweezers or mirror to pluck them and your breath is just awful. And you are disappointed because his uniform made him look buff but really he is just chubby and he wants you to cook for him and darn his socks.
You know, I do not want to die alone and I am just secretly counting the days until I end up with someone that I really want to be with and have a family but I am not looking forward to everything that goes with it. I do not want to be with someone who I actually have to tell to not wear a skull t-shirt to a little girl’s first birthday. I do not want to be with someone who lies. I do not want to clean up your socks. I do not want you to tell me what to do. I do not want to feel like I have to check in with you.
But wait...that's not completely true.
But wait...that's not completely true.
I want to be with someone who I want to do things for; for no other reason than it brings him joy or comfort. I know that a life long marriage is not built on love alone. I know that it is not always peaches. I know too that I want to be happy. I think there are probably a few guys out there that I would be compatible with but I truly believe that with mutual commitment, respect, trust, and love a person could find many people that they would want to spend their life with.
I am not waiting for the one. I am waiting for the one who I will love-and who will love me back. The one I am willing to make a life long commitment to do things for-because whoever I choose to marry-he will be my true love. I will choose him not because of some vague Hollywood conception of "the one" but because I love him and I choose to share my life with him.
Love Always,
Sara
Love and commitment are a choice. I dont believe in a soul mate either. I know there are several people that I could find throughout life that I would live happily with in a partnership. That's the key word, partnership. Holy freikin cow is it a lot of hard, hard, hard work from both people to have a successful healthy partnership. When both people put in the effort, it is totally worth it.
ReplyDeleteI choose to love my friends and family. I choose to love you, my quirky Sara. Keep on chugging through life with the goal of making the most of it!
Love,
Kati
Yes, you are fun to be around :) there may not be just one person for everyone, but there is at least one good one ;) you'll find 'em- but don't rush! Make a life with the right partner, just because you are compatible doesn't mean that you are meant to be, and just because you don't like the same music doesn't mean you aren't. I admire your presence of kind and candidnes
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